Get rid of the selfish people

Do you have friends or supposedly acquaintances who just suck the life out of you and refuse to reciprocate with any kindness (unless paid in kind)?

This word selfish just keeps popping into my head. Relationships can be so adversely one-way that you find yourself asking the same question about whether there are any good people left in this world.

Of late, I noticed my friend had read my texts on her cellphone because I could not seem to delete them after I accidentally sent to her. I asked if she had turned off the read notification because the blue tick was not appearing. She told me I was crazy and needed to chill because I was accusing her of doing something she didn’t. Accuse? I was merely asking.

She asked me the same question last year when I turned off the read notification and she was curious why I did it. So why now that I asked the same question, I was told to chill? How is it only she has the privilege to ask and not me? I notice she did that with everything else. It had always been a one-way friendship. I was merely someone she clung on to for free meals, to gripe to about her work and sought out when she needed help; practically what people used a doormat for because everyone else were too important and wealthy to be called up.

I was too nice to let go of toxic people. So this year, I started canceling out the bad people in my life. I stopped picking up their calls. I told myself to stop being nice. Wow, I never felt this much autonomy in my life! :))

In the course of two years, I have cleared out all the one-way relationships. This must have been a season for me to empty my closet and only hang the good ones up. I have decided to create new space for new people in my life. Making time for only the right relationships can help build us up and not tear us down.